Rituals

The officiant guides the ceremony with heartfelt anecdotes, love-filled texts, and symbolic secular rituals, offering the couple a powerful way to express their bond and devotion.

Our Oceanian Rituals

Kava

It plays an important role in the social, religious, and private life of Oceanian communities — particularly among the Wallisians, Futunians, Melanesians, people of Vanuatu, and Fiji.

Flower or Shell Necklace

The shell necklace is offered to any Oceanian leaving the fenua or their islands. It symbolizes respect, honor, and heartfelt emotion.

Coconut Water

The coconut water ceremony involves pouring the juice over the couple’s hands. It is a symbolic communion between two souls.

The Lali of Fiji

The Lali is a traditional wooden drum from Fiji. It held an important place in Fijian culture, crafted from hardwood and played with wooden beaters.

Our traditional rituals

The Sand Ceremony

This is a true classic among secular wedding rituals.
To perform it, you’ll need a vase and two containers filled with sand (you can choose different colors for a more aesthetic effect).
You’ll also need a third transparent container to receive the sand from both of you — this could be a vase or a small bottle.One by one, or together, you each pour your sand into the shared container. This ritual is the most well-known of all!
However, here’s a unique variation I love: instead of a vase, use an hourglass!
This object takes on deep meaning in a wedding: choosing together to become one, to watch time flow by, and to commit to sharing life’s journey — hand in hand — as your marriage endures.

The Cocktail Ritual

This ritual involves sharing a cocktail together from the same glass (with straws).
If you're a true epicurean, this playful moment might be just right for you.Refreshing and fun on your wedding day, the cocktail can take any form — a Mojito, for instance, is a perfect choice!

The Love Letter Ritual (with a Bottle of Wine)

This ritual takes place in three simple steps:

A few weeks before the wedding, you choose together a good bottle of wine and a wooden box.
Then, the day before (or a few days prior), each of you writes a love letter expressing your feelings and emotions as they are, just before taking the Big Leap.
During the secular ceremony, you each place your letter into the box and seal it together — with a few nails and a hammer.

A few years later — on your 10th anniversary, for instance — you'll open the box, rediscover your letters, and enjoy the bottle of wine you once chose together.Just imagine: ten years from now, diving back into the heart of this unforgettable day...

The ritual of sealed wine

Before the ceremony, the couple selects a good bottle of wine. On the wedding day, they seal it inside a wooden box. Later, they can choose to bury the box in their garden, to be opened on their 5th or 10th anniversary.

good bottle of wine that ages well
1 wooden box large enough to hold it
1 hammer and 4 nails

It’s a deeply symbolic ritual that requires patience — the couple will wait years before sharing this wine on a future wedding anniversary.

The Rose Ritual

This ritual is as romantic as it gets. At the end of the ceremony, each partner places a rose in a vase — a timeless memory of this special day. It can be done privately or with loved ones like friends and witnesses.
The beauty of this ritual is that it allows you to renew your vows every year by adding a new rose on your anniversary.
Historically, this echoes the “bride’s globe” — a glass dome created at weddings to preserve the bride’s bouquet. Over time, families would add memories: locks of hair, photos, medals… preserving a life together under glass.

The Shoe Ritual

Straight from a fairy tale! If you've dreamed of being Cinderella, this ritual is for you.
Like a princess, you walk to the altar on your father’s arm. He gently removes your shoe and gives it to your future husband, who lovingly places it back on your foot.
The gesture, where your father entrusts your shoe to your spouse, carries strong symbolism: it marks your transition from child to woman.

The Ritual of Burning Your Fears

Marriage is about moving forward and trusting one another. This ritual proves you’re ready to face the future together.
A few days before the big day, both partners write down their fears — past, present, or future. On the eve or morning of the wedding, you read them aloud to each other.
During the ceremony, your officiant explains the ritual. Then comes the symbolic moment: place your written fears into a fireproof bowl, light a candle, and burn them.
You may add a sentence to seal your commitment and shared courage moving forward.

The Tree Planting Ritual

Planting a tree together symbolizes growth and the nurturing of your love.
It’s a meaningful gesture — especially if done in your own garden, where you'll watch the tree grow as your love flourishes.
Let’s be honest: usually he plants, and she supervises! (Depending on the size of the wedding dress… gardening isn't always easy on the big day!)

The Candle Ritual

This ritual requires four candles, each representing a part of your story:

The Past: lit by your parents or mentors
The Present: lit by your closest loved ones
The Future: lit by your children or someone dear
Eternity: lit by you, the couple, symbolizing eternal love

Each lighting moment can be accompanied by short speeches or dedications from your guests.
A variant: pass the flame. Guests light candles one by one, passing the flame until the couple uses them to light the central candle — uniting all lights into one.
Candles are symbols of life and memory. To include your guests in this ritual is to invite them into your love story.

The Stone Ritual

Before the ceremony, place a stone and a black marker on every guest’s seat.
During the event, each guest writes a short message for the couple. One by one, they place their stone in a large glass vase — a keepsake gifted to the newlyweds at the end.
This collective ritual is a beautiful way to involve your guests in your union — and keep a tangible memory of the day.

The Hand (or Foot) Washing Ritual

Water symbolizes purity — that’s why it’s used in many wedding traditions.
Here, the officiant pours water over the couple’s hands as a purification gesture. It symbolizes washing away the past and entering the future together.
A variation involves washing each other's feet — a deeply humble and touching act. If it speaks to you, go for it!